Imaginary Friends

Has your little one had or do they have an imaginary friend? Do you remember having one as a child?

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I’d like to introduce you to Quonzo
(pronounced kwon-zo)

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Can’t see him? Me either. He’s invisible apparently but George knows he’s there.

He arrived in the am of November 17th. Falling through the roof of our house, he began play sword fighting George.

I was quickly introduced to Quonzo as he made himself comfy on our settee, the fattest of our cats on his lap and a story to tell.

So from what I’ve gathered, Quonzo is about 5 inches wide, almost 6 feet tall, with brown spiky hair…oh and he’s 100 years old.

Quonzo was meant to be staying with us for 4 days as he was moving house…100 miles away but it wasn’t ready yet.

Our neighbours (George’s pals)over the road have recently moved out and according to George, Quonzo had been living with them.

So Quonzo has seemingly dipped in and out of our lives, with hubs and I being happy to talk about him if George mentions him, but otherwise we aren’t reminding him of his existence. Hubs is under strict instructions from me NOT to piss Quonzo off (ya know, just in case he is a 100-year-old spirit).

So we’ve been informed by George that Quonzo’s move has in fact been delayed and he will now be staying with us for 100 days.

You don’t have to be a genius to come to the conclusion that Quonzo’s presence is most likely a byproduct of George’s anxieties over us selling our house.

The sale is still going through and until we exchange we aren’t in a position to secure a rental. There aren’t currently any properties on the rental market that suit our needs either.

I’ve talked to George and asked if he is worried about moving house and he said he is. I’ve tried my best to reassure him that all our things will come with us and it simply means that we will have more space. It’s a good thing.

If Quonzo is his way of helping him through the process, then I’m all for it. I’m just relieved he didn’t tell me he was a deceased relative. Although that could’ve been quite nice.

Nonetheless Quonzo has raised some questions. On the morning before Quonzo appeared, George had come into our bed in the early hours. His sleep is restless at the moment, after a good five months of sleeping through the night, he’s clearly not switching his mind off.

So we’re all laying in bed about 6am and George sits up and says “I can hear someone talking downstairs”. My ears aren’t great and I have to wear hearing aids to hear certain tones, I also have tinnitus which worsens the more silence I’m surrounded by.

I couldn’t hear any talking. I asked George what he could hear and he said he heard someone say “Daddy” and it was probably the cats talking. He then spent that morning trying to encourage the cats that it was ok to reveal to him that they could talk. Not more than a few hours later, Quonzo appeared. Strange coincidence?

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Even weirder, George at one point started to get quite aggravated that he couldn’t remove his new friends name. I didn’t want to remind him so I told him to go and ask him. He went over to the spot where Quonzo was apparently sitting and whispered to him. Returning to me he said “it’s Quonzo”. That threw me. Was this a game? George’s memory couldn’t remember his name but Quonzo actually told him?!

I’ve lived in my house 11 years and I’m pretty certain it isn’t haunted. Both my mum, and I believe I have a slight inclination towards being able to feel a spirits presence so I think I would know. Quonzo doesn’t scare me.

I’ve done some brief reading and spoken to friends who’s little ones also have an imaginary friend. Whilst there doesn’t  appear to be an obvious reason for theirs, I’m certain George’s is to do with us moving. Everything points to it. He’s also recently learnt to count to 100 (although he can never remember what comes after the 9, 29,59 etcetera).

My brief research suggested not to disregard the imaginary friend but also not to encourage it in the sense of pretending you can see them.

The whole concept really fascinates me and I shall certainly be doing some reading to try to understand this moment in our lives better. If nothing but to help George through the transition of moving.

The main thing I’ve taken from Quonzo is that my child has an amazing imagination. I’ve always been known for my unusual thoughts and over active imagination. It’s lovely to know that George has inherited this and we can share and create stories together.

Secondly I’ve read that it’s a perfectly normal thing for preschoolers to invent imaginary friends. The fact George has told us about Quonzo doesn’t worry me. I’m happy that he feels he can share his secrets and worries with us.

What I will do is be mindful of what we discuss around George regarding the move. He’s already suggested maybe he should ask Father Christmas for a new house. We’ve told him that’s not for him to worry about and Mummy and Daddy are using their wishes for that. The last thing I want is for his little mind worrying about something that will be a fabulous next chapter in our lives.

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Has your little one had or do they have an imaginary friend? Do you remember having one as a child? I’d love to hear all about it in the comments below.

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Lucy At Home UK gentle parenting blogger

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16 thoughts on “Imaginary Friends

  1. This is so interesting, mine never had an imaginary friend but it sounds like you are doing the right thing by only talking about his imaginary friend when he does. I hope the house move goes well – it’s a stressful time for all of you xx #KCACOLS

  2. This is interesting. Our oldest, now 19 used to have imaginary friends and hear people in the house all the time, up until she was about 8 or 9. She also went through a big change, moving and me entering her life. Our youngest, now 7, is super-imaginative but has never said anything like this. It makes you wonder what goes through their minds and spurs stuff like this. #KCACOLS

  3. Our 9yo has never had an imaginary friends that she names (at least not to us) but she still role-plays and makes up friend within role-play I think. I’m sure that once you move, things will settle down and maybe Quonzo will a welcome distraction for George eventually. #kcacols

    1. Yes he’s often helpful to mention too when George is struggling with a social situation. I have started to try and mention Quonzo to see if it offers him some relief. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your experience. #kcacols

  4. Aww bless him. It is great that he feels that he could tell you about his friend. If it helps him get through the moving experience then it can only be a good thing.
    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time.

  5. I found this post fascinating! I get the whole thing about Quonzo being George’s way of voicing his anxieties about the house move, but also, like you, am intrigued slightly by the whole concept of an imaginary friend. My little girl has recently made an “imaginary” friend called “Josh Gonan” (we have to make sure we say his name correctly or she gets cross! He lives in a faraway land but he sometimes comes to our house to stay the night. Sometimes she goes to fetch him and sometimes his Mum and Dad (called John!) bring him!! I don’t know why but I wouldn’t be surprised if in 20 years time she brings home a “real” Josh Gonan and ends up marrying him! I just have a funny feeling, and I know that sounds weird but I really wouldn’t be surprised!!! #KCACOLS

    1. Oh how funny. Bless her. She sounds like she has a real imagination. I’d love to know what becomes of Josh Gonan and if they real Josh Gonan ever one day comes into her life. Thanks for stopping by #kcacols

  6. I had an imaginary friend. Two actually. They were rabbits called Floppy and Fluffy. Fluffy was my favourite. I remember having a meltdown in a restaurant because somebody from another table took away the chair that my rabbits were “sitting on”. They were very real to me and even at age 10, when I was waaay past imagining them, I remember telling my friend’s mum that I used to have two rabbits. She then asked me to show her how to clean out their rabbit cage because they’d just bought a rabbit that week. Eeek! I didn’t have a clue!

    I’m sorry to hear that George is worried about the move. I hope that Quonzo can help him to process things a little. Have you seen the TV show Charlie and Lola? Lola has an imaginary friend called Soren Laurenson. I don’t know if watching something like that together would help or hinder the situation? But I thought I’d mention it. #blogcrush

    1. Oh wow! I’m so fascinated how they come about. And why children decide their form ie rabbits etc.

      We have watched Charlie and Lola bit I’ve obvs not paid attention enough because I didn’t realise Lola has an imaginary friend. I’m going to download them if I can and check it out. Thank you. And thanks for stopping by. #BlogCrush

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