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Just call me Switzerland.

As a blogger, (or at least a mama pretending to play blogger), my role is to write riveting pieces. It is my observation of both the world of blogging and journalism that often, the way to attract readers is to write controversial pieces.

Controversy after all sparks emotion in people, leading to debate and a more wider coverage of the piece. Sadness, anger, pity, sympathy, rapport, they are all feelings that often make you want to read more. Once roused, you feel more inclined to share with others what you’ve found. This is of course the same for humour, but humour is a delicacy that differs depending on taste and isn’t always easy to get right. 

Overall it is my stance that if you read a piece and it makes you feel something then the writer has done their job. As an aspiring writer myself I think that’s what we all strive for. Only for me I’m a bit more selective. I only want people to feel positive emotions. Or at least compel them to think compassionately about the feelings and emotions of other living creatures. But I dread the thought that any of my posts would spark people to feel anger, hurt or disappointment. 

See I’m happy to admit that I am a people pleaser. Although a quick google search will tell you that this is a pretty substandard type of person to be with numerous articles on how to stop it.

I want my posts to trigger thoughts and feelings about things you may not have considered. I can’t tell you what to feel but I will try my utmost to make sure that it doesn’t make you dislike what you are reading. 

So if you are looking for controversy you won’t find it here. If you do then it was NEVER intentional. I hope I don’t sound like a complete sap without morals because I am very far from that. If I truly feel strongly about something I WILL argue the toss in the most diplomatic way I can. 

I consider myself to be a strong and independent woman but the people pleasing side to my personality is supported by my position also as a fence sitter. When it comes to many a subject, just call me Switzerland. Ever striving to remain neutral. 

Even if I start off with an opinion or a belief on a subject, I am very easily swayed once I start a discussion about it with somebody of an opposing view. This all combined makes me the worst candidate for a controversial post as I would undoubtedly receive a ton of back lash only to have changed my opinion on the topic. People’s opinions of me however may take a lot longer to change. 

So if you ever want a mediator to an argument. I’m probably your girl. Efficiently adept at seeing both sides I’ll help you to find a resolve. As for looking for a contentious post on the latest hot topic…I reckon I can point you in the direction of a fab fellow blogger or two. 

This said, my New Years Resolution for this year is to try and give less of a fuck. Last year I tried it and this year I shall continue to improve on the notion of treating others as I wish they treated me but without the expectation that this will be the case as it rarely is. 

Much love and peace to you and remember where to come if you need a neutral viewpoint in a disagreement. 

#ablogginggoodtime

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Rachel George
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I love your writing. Debate and discussion do not need to be heated or offensive.

mummy in a tutu
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I think debate and discussion are good but don’t always need to get out of control. I think the most important thing is honesty.
Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime

Enda Sheppard
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What’s wrong with Switzerland — it produced Roger Federer didn’t it? He is a great example of pleasing people and succeeding! It can be done. Super post

Alice | Letters to my Daughter
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I’m very much the same, although I am pasionate about many topics, I still like to think I’m open minded enough to listen to another person’s point of view. There’s a quote I read once that’s stuck with me – “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it”. I think that’s really important – if you are going to have an opinion, don’t close the door to other people’s thoughts on the subject! Congrats – someone loved this post so much they added it to the #BlogCrusj linky! 🙂 Feel… Read more »
Tracey Bowden
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I hate conflict and for this reason, I shy away from writing posts I feel would cause others to tell me I am wrong. If I do I will publish anonymously on another site! I do however save that for my facebook page where people can be involved in a polite discussion. No need for things to get out of control #kcacols

Ali+Duke
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I know what you mean, I want people to enjoy what I write, but I try to stay away from things that may be seen as contraversial. I think I am just bit of a wuss lol. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time.

Franca
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I don’t like debates or confrontations either! I like to move very far away from them! I am not good at them either! I might be too soft too! lol, I think that there is nothing wrong to write about positive things and want to bring positivism to people life. In fact, I love that and we should encourage it. I think we should write what makes us happy and eventually people will feel it. You can tell from your writing that you are such a lovely person and very positive. Keep doing what you are doing because it is… Read more »
Tracey
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I know what you mean, I always look at different points of view and my family don’t get it when they have arguments and I am not automatically taking their side but you have to be fair 😉 Thanks for linking up with #KCACOLS